Well I'm having one of those weeks, I try to stay positive but it seems around every corner is a brick wall and I slam smack dab into it, obviously I'm no superman either...cuz superman is the man of steel and well I'm not a man and I don't even have buns of steel...
If you stop reading right here I will completely understand, this is a venting session of sorts for me...
Abby's Sweet 16 is coming up...I know right! Well I can most certainly promise you she won't be appearing on MTV's 'My Super Sweet 16' show, although when it's all said and done the X-factor and myself 'may' be appearing on Jerry Springer...
I don't like the X, there is a reason we are divorced, I tolerate him for Abs and Reese's benefit, I am cordial and rarely gripe about the fact he owes upwards of $30,000 in back child support, child care and medical exspenses.
I only occasionally gripe that he still calls my dad and recently my BIL, why can't he stay out of MY families life, MY life... in May we will have been divorced 15 yrs. Seriously it is so fustrating-if you only knew how rude and dismissing he is of me in front of Abby & Reese, then to my family he is a different person...it's hard ya'll...
So when he called Abby last weekend to plan her sweet 16 party I was a little taken back, NOT because he wanted to do a party for her BUT because he was letting her have a friend party...Now how in the HELK am I suppose to have a party for her, I can't honestly expect her friends to come to two parties...It would have been nice for him to consider the fact that maybe we were planning something as well...
Before I go on, your probably saying... but Georgie you dislike Children Bday parties, going to them OR having them, isn't that why you bribe your kiddos with cold hard cash...yes TRUE all TRUE BUT this is a special milestone Birthday...even I recognize that fact.
So I do what any good mother would do...I close my bedroom door for privacy then swear, stomp my feet, shed a few tears and call the X-factor to implore him that we do this party T-O-G-E-T-H-E-R. It's silly to have 2 parties days apart, surely we can put our differences aside and work together for our daughters sake...surely...
Abby invited 20 of her nearest and dearest, to a dinner party, at her favorite restaurant, he will take care of the bill, then I will buy the cake,invitations and any incidentials.
I bought these to go inside little tiny bags that we will decorate and make into place settings putting each girls name on the bag-with 20 girls I thought place setting cards were in order-forgive the quality of the photo-my camera is broke so I had to use Jess's cheapy thingy-it's a wired star necklace set. Hey Nikon or Cannon contact me...I'm certain I could take a good photo with one of your cameras
Just something little, goodie bags are so cliche' for 16 yr olds but I wanted to add a personal touch...
The X has officially complained about the number of girls she invited(she asked him how many friends she could invite...his words...you ONLY turn 16 once so you decide) then he told me I was just ree-dic-u-lous for buying the necklaces and paying $75-100 for a cake...I know the cake is a bit much, I wish one of my friends did cakes, she wants one of those yucky tasting BUT oh so pretty fondant cakes and I'm no Betty Crocker, Cake Boss OR Ace of Cakes...what's a mom to do?
So I lock myself in the bathroom turn on the shower and sob because I'll be damned if he is gonna get the best of me in front of the childrens and I refuse to let Abby know how hard it is dealing with this man-it's not her issue, it's mine. So I take my moment, suck it up and put on my happy face, chanting I can do this...I can do this...
Needless to say I have been a bit preoccupied as of late-the invitations have been sent ONLY to find out Abby will probably have to cheer at a playoff game the night she planned her party AFTER she confirmed with 2 coaches that NO you will not be cheering for that game...so I let her lay her head in my lap and cry as I told her... it will all work out...it will all work out...and no she can't miss the game-10 of the 20 girls she invited are on her cheer squad and I don't expect those girls to miss the game either...
If you have read this far and you have an X-factor feel free to make me feel better by saying yours is worse than mine...
Changing thought process-we are still waiting on 3 SSS participants to confirm they received their exchange partners info PLEASE check your email and let us know you did in fact receive the email with your exchange partners info-otherwise it leaves me scrambling to try and fill those spots with elves...and removing your name from list...
My confession for today: It is just a BEAUTIFUL fall day today and I think I will go rake some leaves and clean out my flower beds
